Now I refuse to touch it so that I can pass it down to my own daughter. I asked for all the ridiculous stuff your husbands pulled while you were in labor. PCOS and Hypothyroidism- Successful IUI's- May 2012 and October 2014. Its not a movie wherein things change quickly. around 9 he came to bed, moved me over and tried to go to sleep. I waddle downstairs expecting everyone to be ready to leave and find them eating waffles and watching cartoons. -Lois, I was fully dilated after 18 hours and my husband said you think you can hold out pushing until I grab some breakfast?-Sarah, My husband grew this ridiculous goatee and wore a shirt that said TOERAG on it, so he looks ridiculous in all the photos. If that doesn't work,I have two thoughts. Hes pretty lucky the epidural finally kicked in halfway through their lunch date! The one thing that you would do at this point is go into denial mode. Now, no matter how many babies you have given birth to, you still never quite remember the feeling of going into labour until it actually happens again. For this pregnant mother, her escape was playing bingo. Andhe bowled the only perfect game of his entire life! I'll talk to him tomorrow. Not saying you aren't important to him..I'm sure you mean the world to him but having a child is a whole new/different kind of love that might just make him realize the drinking like he does needs to slow down. Living with an alcoholic husband requires a lot of patience, courage, and the support of people around. I mean PISSED. My mom always tells the story of when she was in labor with my sister, on Thanksgiving Day, and somewhere around 20-so hours of labor my dad ate a full Thanksgiving dinner, turkey drumstick and all, right in front of her. If men only knew how much pain and exhaustion really goes into labor. It was about 11:30 am when we finally made it to the hospital (which was on the other side of town) and after being examined by the nurse, was told I was going to have my child later that evening (at about 6 pm)! Hours in labor: Never went into labor! an hour later, he arrived 15 minutes before our daughter did. I dont want to deal with your stink and neither do the doctors and nurses! Well, it was getting late, and his sister called to see how things were going, and he smiled affectionately at me and told her that the contractions werent too bad yet. So here I am in the passenger seat, in labor, trying (graciously, mind you) to keep my moaning down so he can make this call. What would make a soon-to-be-dad not realize the birth of his child is a momentous occasion? Since I had to have a c-section he stayed in the hospital with me the 3 days sleeping on the couch and changed ALL the diapers. God bless my daughter for sleeping/ nursing her way into this world. -Anne, When the nurses asked how bad the pain was from 1-10 and I said 10, my husband said oh, come on it cant be that bad. I feel bad that he lost his phone, but why was he throwing it in the kitchen sink? He then goes home and sleeps on and off for 10 hours (in between bouts of explosive diahrrea) while Im at the hospital with our first newborn daughter, ALONE. The ban has since been lifted: Following an outcry from expectant parents, medical professionals, and doulas, Governor Cuomo signed an executive order on March 28 requiring all New York hospitals to allow one person to accompany someone who is pregnant through labor and delivery. My DH never drinks like that, unless we're headed out for a crazy night with friends (every once in a while) or to a wedding or something. There is no scientific proof to show that drinking alcohol can help in inducing labor. Hiding bottles or drinking secretly so that family will not know what . I know the baby could come anytime now but I can't really worry too much about it or it will just make me worry more. When I insisted that it in fact had broken, he asked me if i was sure, and how did i know. With this next one, were doing a home birth, so no monitors, but I still anticipate him being so busy talking that hes not really focused on me. It is also important to seek professional. Here are 10 ways of dealing with an alcoholic husband: Wondering how you should be dealing with an alcoholic husband? Dear all, I'm 18 weeks pregnant and since becoming pregnant my husband has got incoherently drunk 3 times (unable to talk etc). . . But he's probably young enough where that can all be avoided if he changes his patterns NOW. My husband and I heeded the advice and packed a bunch of snacks. husband drunk when i went into labor. The longer you hide your head in the sand the bigger the issue will get. Alcoholics don't just drink hard liquorWTF? Yes, keep telling her that labor will sober him right up, and that he has to sit in the waiting room if he is buzzed, because that's totally the right answer. Your rights as a patient supecedes his right to violate your peace and privacy. While bringing the note over they saw his truck and had to go bang on our bedroom window to wake my stupid husband up. My partner and I have not fought at all during our relationship, nor has he given me cause to rage. We didnt go to bed until midnight. Children should be seen, and heard, and believed. She was great because she understood. I was induced at 7pm, and about 1am my husband decided to go home and get some sleep (I hadnt slept at all either!) The doc said that was waaaaay too much and really unhealthy. I think your husband should be able to handle 3-5 weeks of not drinking in exchange for a healthy baby and wife. You'd like to get my newsletter! Upon completion of said EP, he gave it to the neighbor. I was laying on the bed playing And E was sitting in my desk chair. He will have a beer or two these days, but knows not to get drunk during my last few weeks of pregnancy. I ended up having a C-section and he decided it would be best if he waited in the recovery room instead of coming into the E.R. But, in the long run, the denial mode is not going to work at all. With my first I called my then husband to tell him my water broke, he asked if I could drive myself to the hospital so he didnt have to leave work. Thats when I had to rouse him. Nothing until we got home. I went into labor at 10:30am Saturday morning and, this being my first child, I didnt know it. If something bothers them, well then, in front of all and sundry, they will pretty much have it out. -Amy, At 3am, I decided it was time to go and my husband said he was getting up to get ready. Yeah, you know, cause he was the one up since 5 am working on pushing a 10 pound baby out of his body. I've tried explaining this to him, but he really thinks he deserves to unwind however he wants since he works so hard. With our fourth, he was perfect and even had to help deliver the baby!! After 19 hours of back labor and an emergency c-section, my ex went bowling with his parents. He said okay, proceded to go hook up the horse trailer, load his horses and tell me that he was going to a branding. Thanks. She thought she had just peed her pants, but it kept happening everytime she stood upso off we went to the hospital, and she was definately in labor. Im sure his parents saw far more than they ever hoped to see, and Ive never let him live it down. They might be useful in convincing him that he's got a pretty vital role and needs to be really present. This can lead to further problems such as depression, anxiety, and social withdrawal. Oh well, possibly because it was the day before I gave birth to our 3rd child, Jack. Last week, I made a simple request on the Mommy Shorts fanpage. Things start with a small incident and can lead to bigger uncontrollable incidences that will only bring shame to you and your family. And never forgot it. I feel so much resentment for his lack of physical and emotional support. The tendency to hide their problems is also a common characteristic among alcoholics. You probably will NEVER be in that much pain but if you are, I sincerely hope you remember what you said! After like 2 hours I called to have him tell me he didnt feel good so he was taking a nap, and that he was sure I could handle our daughter on my own. I dont find I get the opportunity to maintain the rage nearly as much as I once did. After Amy Lam prematurely went into labor and gave birth to their baby at home, her husband, Gilbert Kwok, thought the worst was over. Well, after 21 years we are still happily married and you have to realize that you have to take the good with the bad. She all but collapses into my arms exhausted to the point she couldn't even walk to the bedroom. Obviously if I am in labor I will not be driving myself but I am sure once we get closer to my EDD then he will slow it down. Mortifying. If your husband is an alcoholic, the more you know about the disease, the better prepared you will be to deal with it. . Why do I remember the date so well? Seriously?? All for a free parking spot!!! At first he acted like I was over reacting but later apologized and agreed with me. These are hilarious! It was 4am when I decided to wake up my husband (this was 2 hours after dealing with the labor on my own) and I told him its getting so much stronger now. This will help you keep them out of trouble and save you from embarrassing situations. So, he took a nap. My husband was asleep in the chair and when they woke him up, he walked over to me and said, My foot hurts. REALLY? He arrived at the hospital with an emerald ring to give her..because after all, it was Mothers Day, and I was born in May. It can vary widely. When your partner needs help, they will reach out to you. First baby: Yes. Unfortunately, real life doesnt always abide by my blogging schedule and sis gave birth last Friday night! The worst part was later when he said, You know, you seemed kind of mad that I got sick. Yeah, sorry I couldnt be sympathetic. My hubby is a talker, too. yep, i paint with a broad ass brush. I was prepped for emergency c-section and we had friends in boats out looking for him in the bay. You would really benefit from an Al-Anon meeting or two. This post and the responses make me want to bash my head against a wall. to catch during the initial few meetings, but by the time you get to know about it, it is too late. A simple rule for when to go to the hospital for labor is the 5-1-1 rule. Raspberry Leaf Tea. I couldnt reach my call light, or my chapstick to throw at him, and he wasnt responding to me whisper shouting at him. Raspberry leaf tea is supposed to help with uterine contractions, reported Pregnancy, Birth & Beyond, though there's some contradictory evidence as to whether or not it . Sure having a bonfire or watching a big game with the buddies and having that many once and a while is no big deal, but being unable, or unwilling, to stop drinking heavily on a regular basis should be a huge red flag. "I finally snapped and said that I wasn't going to name my child an ugly name that I don't like for the sake of a woman that doesn't even like me," she writes. "Put. My hubby has a habit of drinking a lot (over 5 drinks in an evening) after a rough day at work, and I'm worried I'll go into labor, and he'll be extremely buzzed. This is a very common issue, btw . If at all possible, secure a back-up. A therapist or counselor will be able to help him overcome his addiction and lead a more fulfilling life. However, Phil and I are pretty much the masters of the silent fight. 1. 5. If you want to read all 237 responses (and YOU DO), click here. The nurse made eye contact w/me, raised her eyebrows, and then lead him to the monitor to explain what was what, lol. HELLO! DH managed to get to the hospital after his work in time to give me a quick kiss and be kicked out for delivery. You two need to have some serious conversations about his alcohol intake, labor or not. As soon as the dr left, I yelled at my hubby to get up and he acted offended! At the hospital he asked over and over If he could leave to go get himself dinner. At 6am. SEARCH PARTIES. We had attended Lamaze together and learned the stages of labor.